You can’t look back & go forward. There is a reason why the rear view mirror is so small and the windshield is so big. It’s because the road ahead of us is so much more important than the road behind us.
What is behind you is less important than what is in front of you.
Far too many of us dwell on our past & get stuck in a rut. It happens in every walk of life from fitness to career & relationships. I’ve had clients reminisce about their glory days as athletes or how thin they were years ago, & now they are overweight and overwhelmed. Instead of the past inspiring change, it holds them back because they are not looking forward at a new vision for their lives. The same thing can be said for when you go through a career change or divorce. There is an open road before you. The ending of that relationship or job was awful, but there is a new beginning waiting. It’s important to get control of your thoughts because what you focus on expands.
The potential damage of reflecting on the past is that it can harm your future. It’s so easy to get trapped in the “should have’s” and “if only I’d done (you fill in the blank) _____.” This only makes you feel overwhelmed and discouraged.
You are not your past. Today is what matters & the future in front of you. Even the great things that happened, that was yesterday.
Stop talking about how you can’t lose weight, how your ex-husband or ex-wife hurt you, how you wish you made different choices. There is nothing you can do to change the past. Reliving it is not going to take away your pain or make it easier. Life is now! Be about making this moment count. Let the past serve as a wise guide and be open to the lessons, but not the beatings.
You have a decision to make. You can choose to look back or look forward. The Bible says in Philippians 3:13 “focus on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead.” This means that you have a freewill choice to let go of the past. Ask God to help you. Focus your attention on the present and the decisions you can make today to positively affect your future.