Beware of friends that pressure you into being fat. It sounds a bit juvenile, but peer pressure can be to blame for unwanted pounds. For instance, you are out at a restaurant for lunch & your co-workers are ordering cheeseburgers and fries, what do you order? Chances are you get a cheeseburger & fries. What about when your friends want you to hang out with them at the bar during the middle of the week, but you were planning to try out a new fitness class after work? What do you do?
It makes things a lot easier when we go with the group. This is peer pressure 101 right? Even as adults we need to be on guard about the influence our friends can have on our lives.
Motivational speaker Jim Rohn says,
You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.
If you’re trying to lose weight & nurture a healthy lifestyle, you’ll be more motivated if you surround yourself with friends who desire the same goals.
A study in the Journal Of Obesity found:
- Overweight people were more likely to have overweight romantic partners—25 percent vs. 14 percent—
- Overweight best friends—24 percent vs.14 percent, compared to normal-weight people.
- If your friend becomes obese your chances of being obese increase by 57%.
- If your spouse becomes obese, then your odds go up by 37%.
Can I hear a big HELL NO?!
Here is what you do if you don’t want to ditch your friends while you are changing your lifestyle:
- You have to be the lead dog! You order 1st to set the tone for everyone else at the table. You make the suggestion to take a fitness class together after work. It’s possible that if you start working out and eating healthy, they will follow your lead. My friends expect this from me and actually seek me out for it. They know that time together is either going to be a workout at the gym or a walk/run at the park.
- Be a good friend. True friends have the courage to tell each other the truth. My friends have called me out on some things in my life where I was losing my way and vice-versa. If your friends are not being supportive, call them out on it. You might be a catalyst in their lives for change.
- Assess your friendships. If you had the hard conversation with them, are they willing to support you or are they still giving you a hard time? Are your friends bringing out the best in you? This is not selfish. You can still have them in your life, but not be in your inner circle.
I have been blessed throughout my lifetime with beautiful girlfriends that have genuinely been there for me. I want to be the type of woman that gives back, what about you? In other words, have the courage to be a good friend to those who have chosen you. If you want inspiration, give inspiration. If you want people to be loyal to you, be loyal to them. If you want friends to care about your life, care about their lives.