How To Stay In Love

I’m a hopeless romantic.  My mom once said to me, “you are in love with love.”  Indeed, she was right.  Unfortunately, this has led to some heart breaks for me and, I’m ashamed to say, for the other person:(  It’s easy to fall in love, the challenge is to stay in love.  After many years of life and learning, I think I have found my secret to staying in love.

One of the things that’s really important is to enjoy sharing everyday life with the one you love.  A tradition that my husband and I have is to go to our favorite breakfast spot at least 1-2 times a week, or the Waffle House if I’m starving😂  We don’t even chat a lot, we simply enjoy each others company.

Here is our favorite romantic breakfast spot.

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Abita Roasting co.  504 Water St. Madisonville, Louisiana

We always get the same thing every time.  I love their scrambled eggs and muffin top!  I was reading Throne of Glass on my Kindle. I’m a bit of a sci-fi nerd.

FullSizeRender (11)The friendly service here and the atmosphere, and of course the delicious food, is what keeps us coming back:)

💓The real secret I’ve found to staying in love is being able to laugh together.  I’m in 100% agreement with Audrey Hepburn who said,

I love people who make me laugh. I honestly think it’s the thing I like most, to laugh. It cures a multitude of ills. It’s probably the most important thing in a person.

It seemed like my man and me needed a good dose of fun today, so when he went out on an errand, here’s what I did… hehe;)

FullSizeRender (10)OMG, it was so much FUN!!  When I saw his car pulling up I quickly hid in the pantry closet and tried my darndest not to laugh.  When he came in the door, the game was on!  I think I laughed the whole time we were firing at each other.  Needless to say, I’m the dishwasher tonight;) LOL.  But it was so worth it!

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Our Wedding Day

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I’ve always dreamed of being married outside so this time around I was excited to plan a romantic beach wedding.  I couldn’t wait to say our vows with the sun setting behind the emerald blue waters of the Gulf of Mexico. The week of our wedding that vision came to a squeaky halt when the rains came in and it didn’t stop!

I went back and forth between disappointment and hope.  I finally accepted that Mother Nature can’t be stopped and that I needed to get a grip on my perception of things.  Instead of fighting against the circumstances I decided to embrace the rain and make the best of it!

It would be fun kissing in the rain!  LOL  We could get a picture like the sexy one from the movie Notebook where Allie and Noah kiss in the pouring rain:)

I was about to get blue rain boots and white umbrellas, but my man stopped me!  That was a bit much whimsy for him;)  In my quest to find the silver lining I discovered the superstition that rain on your wedding day is good luck!

Superstitions of rainy wedding days: 
  • It symbolizes cleansing from sadness in your past.
  • When you “tie the knot” on a rainy day is signifies that your marriage will last.  This is because a knot that becomes wet is very hard to untie.
  • Rain signifies washing away of bad memories or occurrences.  The gift in this is that you get a completely new, fresh chapter in your life.

Don and I have both been through a lot so these beautiful thoughts resonated with me.

The good news is that we had the luck of the rain without getting rained on!  The hour of our ceremony the rains stopped.😀  It was perfect and all about us.

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  When you’re older, you’ve been through things, you’ve made mistakes. So you come into it (a second marriage) still giddy, but wanting it to last.  -Nicole Kidman

Sometimes it takes a heartbreak to shake us awake, at least it did for me.  I have found that everything that I went through makes me appreciate my husband and our life together even more.

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In our ceremony our wedding officiant, Ken, had us take a moment to talk about our wishes. We then threw our seashells into the giant wishing well.  Afterwards I got hoisted off my feet and the games were on! LOL

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Not exactly the Notebook scene, but we sure did a lot of kissing that day and still do!❤️

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Some things really are better the second time around.

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Buff Bride: How I’m Getting Ready For My Wedding Day

We’re getting married!

Planning our wedding has been fun with only some stress since we are keeping it simple.  We decided on a beach wedding with an exotic honeymoon in the rainforest of Puerto Rico!  We have no color scheme, just the backdrop of a sunset and ocean waters.  Just thinking about it is relaxing.

Our love story began December 8, 2012 at a powerlifting meet in Hattiesburg, MS.  It was my first competition, and I was a bundle of nerves and pre workout!  He had showed up to support his daughters who happened to be my teammates.

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My first thought about him was how inspirational he was, and he said it was my aura that drew him to me-:)  After the meet we all meet up at the restaurant to celebrate our wins.  He drove me home that night, and we both knew we hand discovered someone special.

We’ve had our ups and downs, but a perfect relationship isn’t perfect, it’s just that both people never give up.

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This might sound crazy (love can do that to ya!) but we’ve been engaged a couple of times before, but on March 26th of this year it was for real!  My baby told me he would never leave me, and he gave me his grandmother’s ring—again;)

I’m excited to be sharing my wedding journey with you in my Buff Bride Wedding Series, along with tips and diet advice to help you look and feel great for your big day!  It’s my hope that getting fit can be more about fun and an escape from all the mania that can come with wedding planning.

My first tip is to enjoy the journey, and here’s how:

  • When you feel stressed reflect on your love story.
  • Find humor in the small scale problems that pop up.
  • Laugh!  It decreases stress hormones, boosts your immune system and does wonders for your mood.

I would love to hear where you met your bride or groom, and see a couple’s photo!  Be sure to hashtag #healthyjustice when you share:)  Let’s go from barbells to wedding bells together!

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Secret To A Passionate Relationship

A lifetime of intimacy and attraction in your relationship is possible, and the secret lies in being physical together.  FYI, I’m not just talking about in the bedroom.

A recent survey by Vouchercloud revealed that 85% of couples who exercise together believe that it improved their relationships. Some couples went so far as to say training together “saved the relationship altogether.”

Jamey and Brenda Bertrand have been married 19 years, and they’ve always had a strong physical connection that was further strengthened by working out together.

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Grow Your Bond

Brenda was somewhat active in high school and not as into exercising when her and Jamey met. Whereas Jamey was more into his workouts and wanted to share that part of his life with her.  In time she came to appreciate his help, and it brought them closer.

When you workout together you get to see another side of each other that is very appealing. You witness each other push through physical limitations and reach personal records.

Jamey shared how satisfying it has been for him to get to motivate his spouse into reaching levels that she thought she could never attain. “The smile they give you when they do accomplish goals are priceless.”

Attraction and Desire Never Diminishes

A lot of couples get caught up in the rat race of life with career, busy schedules, and having kids which can cause their sex lives to suffer.

Jamey and Brenda’s desire for one another has never worn off even with the raising of two daughters and the realities of life.

We have never experienced a drop in our sexual desire towards each other.  We both never let the raising our children effect that part of the relationship. We always made at least one day of the week to take a date or have some sort of romantic evening.

Exercising alone increases your endorphins, add to that an improved self-esteem from being in shape and you will experience a serious increase in sexual desire.

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When you look like this it’s easy to understand how physical fitness enhances the relationship:)

Quality Time Together

According to Psychology Today, ‘When work and other obligations take over the schedule, finding ways to keep your relationship a priority can make a difference.’

You don’t have to be exercise fanatics.  Jamey says that “Brenda is not the work out demon girl. Lol.  She enjoys going 2-3 times a week . No more than that. I’m just happy she does work out hard in those 3 days and we get to do it together.”

When you workout together you are spending time with one another and sharing a purpose that will last even when the kids are gone and you retire.  

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They both enjoy outside activities such as riding mountain bikes together or a slow jog around the LSU lakes.  Jamey says, “It’s gets the daily stress out of our systems.”

Nurture With Massages

One of the fun perks of working out together is that you both understand and appreciate receiving a good massage.  Jamey does a lot of running so needless to say, his feet are pretty calloused and sore.  Brenda gives him foot manicures and massages.  He in turn gives her neck and shoulder messages to help melt away her stress and workout the knots.  

A Life of Love and Freedom

The driving motivation for this couple is that they want to grow very old with each other.  They want to enjoy life and be able to function in their retirement age.  Jamey expressed that “only staying fit and healthy will we be able to achieve those great experiences such as traveling the world and going to exciting places in our retirement days.”

In honor of Valentine’s Day and a lifetime of passionate love, make an effort this weekend to get in a sweaty workout with your Sweetheart.

photoI’m a certified personal trainer/lifestyle fitness coach NESTA/Health Coach NDP.  I provide personal and group/couple training as well as health coaching.  I can work with you locally or out of state.  Send me a message, and I will be happy to share my services with you.

 

 

 

 

Sometimes The Hard Choice Is the Right Choice

Have you ever overridden your gut feeling about something only to constantly be in a place of indecision and inner turmoil?  It can be scary to follow through with what you feel is right because of the sacrifices it might entail and the possibility that you could be wrong.

At our core we have two basic and motivating emotions, fear and love.  Fear causes us to pull back from life, but love allows us to be passionately open to life.  Think about this, if you could remove all of your fears, how different would your life be?  Unfortunately, by the time many of us get over our fears we will be too sick or too old to do those things we wanted to do, had we not let our fears hold us back.

The lesson is clear:

We must transcend our fears while we can still do those things we dream of.  To transcend fear though, we must move somewhere else emotionally; we must move into love. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

I John 4:18  There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear.

When you allow love to be your motivating force it will change your life.  That change may involve sacrifice, but the peace and hope that fills your soul will be the wind beneath your wings.

My life changed in a day when I moved from fear into love.  It was a painful decision that I didn’t want to make, but I kept reassuring myself that sometimes the right decision is the hard one.

When you finally surrender to doing what you know inside of you is right, fear will be kicking and screaming the entire time.  Those are the moments in your life that define you. 

So one day I’m enjoying sunshine and palm trees in New Orleans with my mom, and the next day Sammy and I are hiking through snow.

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There has been suffering and sacrifice in my choice, but I feel an inner peace that everything is going to be alright.

So how are you going to approach your life?  Are you going to be an old man or woman that wished they would have done things differently, or are you going to choose to not let your fears hold you back?  Can you be okay with settling, being unhappy and not quite sure of yourself?  Living in fear is exhausting, whereas when you open yourself up to love you give yourself a chance to be happy and to have joy and peace.

I don’t want to be a judgmental, anxiety ridden, depressed and mean person so the choice to me is pretty clear.  Love is where I want to live.  Look into your heart and find the courage to walk in love today.